Life Questions from Kale
Kale Donnelly, one of Sunday Shakedown’s main contributors, asked a few of us some life questions. Leave a comment if you would like to answer or agree or disagree with one of ours. Thank you!
Question 1: What kind of jobs and lifestyles did your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, etc. have, and which pieces of their lifestyles have had the greatest impact on where you are in life, what you do, how you do it, etc?
I believe that my parent's lifestyle played a huge role in influencing who I am today. A lot of driving principles that feel so instinctual to me were actually probably instilled in me all by my parents. My mother is the downright nicest person I've ever been around(no joke) and she is so funny that she can make you pee your pants(no joke). She has always been a 'Do it Yourself'er' and being able to model her attitude towards life has been incredibly advantageous for me. My father was the life of the party. As a wine and sales representative in the state of Wyoming, his business was to make friends and he boy was he f*cking good at it. Everyone knew his name and he could always get you in a good mood. I'm proud to have my fathers social skills and ability to make a friend out of anyone. Unfortunately, my father suffers from later stages of Lewy Bodies Dementia, which has caused him to loose a lot of his quick humor and ability to have intellectual conversations.
I'm definitely a 'chip off the block', but that's not to say I'm exactly like them. I've learned from them, their successes and their failures. I've chosen to go a different path because I was given complete transparency into their lives. I'm grateful to have learned so much from both of them.
I'm in the same boat, my parent's occupations have played a significant role in how I have defined the career I aspire to have. My mom is the "breadwinner" of the household and my dad works his ass off at a blue collar gig. Even though my current career path more closely aligns with my mom's than my dad's, I have taken a ton of insight from my old man. He works 7am-7pm, 6 days a week, mostly on his feet and has had the same job for almost 30 years; this has always blown my mind. I like to shadow my dad's work ethic and stoic attitude even in a corporate environment.
My parents had an eclectic set of jobs. My father was a punter for the Atlanta Falcons and the Seattle Seahawks for 7 years total, but retired when I was only a year old. Later went in to law enforcement, and then insurance. My mother is a teacher of family and consumer science (culinary science and childhood development), and at one point they both owned a car wash. Perhaps their mix of work is why I've had more jobs than I can count on two hands? Either way, they were total opposites - My mother the loving and punitive figure, while my dad was more emotionally reserved and laid back in his approach. So, I have a debatably unhealthy mix of Type A and Type B personality traits that seem to ebb and flow throughout my days :) Tie in my extremely conservative grandparents who shared a lifelong service in the Air Force and you have yourself one hell of a family dynamic. Overall, a highly competitive, no excuses, slightly-unsure-of-myself attitude was born from all of this.
My parents' careers were as different as night and day. My mom is a homemaker and she doesn't think it's a 'real job' and would always tell me she wanted something 'better' for me. Well, Mom - I've been a stay at home wife the last 6 months and I can tell you that it's definitely a real job, throw in a puppy and it becomes that much more interesting (I can almost see her nodding disapprovingly :P). Joke apart, she held down the fort when it was needed, and oh boy, was it needed! My dad wanted to be his own boss (hated the 9 to 5). Most of his time was spent in real estate. Additionally he invested in a lot of different ventures as a means to compensate for when things were slow in the main game. Sometimes, this meant he had to swim upstream, and on occasions the side ventures would dry up. This led to the family having some tough days. Looking back today, I believe I began to build my personal principles when we were in the thick of those times. Both my parents reacted very differently to these setbacks and I would like to think I picked up the right bits and pieces.